Why?

Women can do anything, go to any extent for their loved ones when it comes to building a relationship. They work on it, exercise ways to preserve it, cover their partners’ flaws & accept everything, adjust themselves, accommodate to the circumstances in whatever ways they can. They sacrifice; they endure so much pain only to get more pain in return without losing an inch of hope. They believe in forgiving & forgetting. They believe in the word belief itself. They want to give another chance.  

But why is it that men chicken out the moment they see a crack in the relationship? Why can’t they equally show such strength, support and little sensitivity?

I find it strange, yes I do…yet women are called a weaker sex.

(P.S. – This post was based on a few observations. Ofcourse, not all men & women are the same.)

Cost of Celebrityhood?

When the news papers, tabloids churn out news of celebrities’ link-ups, liaisons, gossips etc. apparently the journalists feel that they sensationalize the readers who crave for such news. I wonder what they and their families go through after reading them or being grilled / interrogated at news channels. How painful it must have been for Shahid Kapoor for an instance to answer questions like, how did he feel after the break up with Kareena Kapoor, how did he cope up, (Remember this is a standard question…even if the person is drowning somewhere, a journalist would arrive and ask …how does it feel getting drowned?  instead of saving him) or of late the wedding speculations related to Sania & Shoaib? After all they are human beings too, they may be as sensitive and emotional as any normal being, and am sure if not more; it affects them.

To an extent people may want to know about celebrities’ lives but not to the extent when such personal intervention may hurt them.

Wedding Season

Personally, I detest attending weddings because that multitude of gathering somehow scares me and I kind of feel slightly uncomfortable. But if it’s someone close I make it a point to go, convey my wishes and steer clear. If, the wedding is in the family I have discovered it’s fun…& the best part is that it is an extraordinary formula to reinforce the bond. Shopping together, feasting, chalking out wedding-plans, cracking jokes, night-outs, etc. is an utter joy.

My brother is getting married this month, towards the end and all the mad rush has just begun. Yeah, my opinion still is the same…having too many people around and all that hullabaloo is panicky… however, it’s 100% FUNtastic . The togetherness & enjoyment it brings is simply wonderful, besides welcoming a new member in the family!

You all are invited

Hold my hands…

When times are hard,
Just hold my hands,
When life is agonizing,
Come hold my hands…!
When I would fall weak,
Come hold my hands,
When i cry inconsolably,
Just hold my hands.
I need some strength, I need you,
When nothing would seem right,
Come hold my hands!

Holding hands firmly of your loved ones at the times of distress endows enormous strength. The Strength to overcome the tough times, strength to fight and win.

A bear hug

Such is the magic of embracing someone close. There are times, when I totally feel knocked out. I break down, almost into tears and to my rescue; I just go and hug my mom very firmly. That very moment I feel no grief is worth it but, being close to the most precious person on earth. It helps tremendously, its warmth and security is entirely uncanny to me.

A toast on their birthday!

It’s a twist of fate that I have two very close friends who are; very similar persona-wise, holds a prime place in my heart, and has played an imperative role in balancing my life! One I have known for a very very long time now and the other very recently, but I guess the camaraderie clicked instantly & effortlessly as they share the same birth date

I would certainly take this opportunity to thank them for everything, for having them in my life, for being such wonderful human beings and adding every drop of essence in their and their loved ones life! May God shower choicest of blessings upon you and may you have all that you want in life!!

With much love,

Dew

A message in my heart!

This one post has been pending for quite some time and I truly wish to dedicate this to a very very special person in my life, My Mother. A big smile and hugs to her… for “every”thing!

It’s quite true that this is one such strong essence of a woman to be able to give birth to a child and even quintessential to nurture them. I am lucky to have my mother as mine, she has unconditionally done everything, and been there for me every moment whenever & wherever I needed her. She is indeed an integral part of my life and I take this opportunity to acknowledge all her sufferings, pain she might have undergone in the entire span of my upbringing.

There were times when I had taken her for granted,
& she took everything at ease,
I expected her to understand and she did,
…never complaining a bit!
There were instances when I yelled back,
& she gulped it down with an ache in her heart!

Endless such times; when she spent sleepless nights,
to nurse me & see that I was upright!
Umpteen times she caressed…
& embraced me close and tight!
She is an emblem of patience, and epitome of sacrifice!

Yes, she is my strength & weakness too; who has seen & faced so much, yet remains calm & composed. I wish to express my soulful regret for all the pain given to her knowingly and unknowingly, and thank her for being there for me – always & “all” ways!! I can never ever pay back my gratitude in my lifetime, no child can… but all that I can do for you “Ma” is to ensure that I am always there for you…forever and ever!

- Maa this is for you!

What women want?

This is for a few eligible friends of mine who are a bit confused as to what to look for… in a right guy while choosing them as a life partner. I know, in arranged marriage it’s a bit difficult as the time frame to understand or know more about their would-be is quite brief ….while in Love marriages too it’s ruled out of late, since all in love would exhibit their coolest habits and hide their grey areas (in some cases out of fear of losing their partner & rest out of deceiving habits :p ). At least I believe that money, degree, swanky jobs and posts etc…& looks (minimum that you can desire is he is presentable) are very temporary and they certainly do not count in my list… so what does..?

1. Should be a good human being.
2. Should be sensitive towards your emotions.
3. Should be loving and caring.
4. Should be responsible enough.
5. Should be very considerate and respectful towards his own parents and family (If he does, he surely would care for you).
6. Should be there with you when you are in pain and distressed. Should sail with you through the tough times.
7. Should be compassionate and accommodating to not only your needs and desires but others too.
8. Should be supportive towards your decisions.
9. Should love you unconditionally.
10. Last but not the least of course, he should be completely committed to you.

It certainly may sound like a perfect 10 list, and not all the above said characteristics you may find in one guy but trust me if a guy is not sensitive and caring enough towards you and your emotions; he is worthless and the chances of such a relationship getting weaker is pretty high!!!

A note of caution for those who may think I am being unrealistic: Well at least I have not mentioned that a guy should be muscular, should be fair & handsome, should know how to cook, should be able to look after house and kids, should be able to balance work and home etc etc. ….unlike guys who mention, “Sundar, susheel, gharelu kanyayein” (Pretty, decent, homely bride hi chahiye in matrimonial ads & likewise…)

Relationships, any relationship for that matter needs to be worked upon…!!! The balance has to be created from both the ends to make it really succeed life long!!